Families are the biggest influence on the lives of children. They can influence the attitudes and beliefs of children as they grow up. Set aside regular times, such as mealtimes, to provide an opportunity for all family members to talk about their daily activities, interests and concerns in a relaxed way. This can be very important when difficult issues need to be discussed.
In the early years of marriage parents should learn to be relaxed when talking with each other about sex. If parents are able to talk about sex together, they will find it easier to talk to their children about sex. They can teach them about how girls become pregnant, the risks of HIV and the advantages of keeping sexual relationships within marriage. This helps children learn correct information and develop positive attitudes as they grow up.
Families can also encourage and educate girls to grow up with self-confidence. This will help them resist unwanted pressure for sexual relations and protect themselves against HIV infection.
Not all families have two parents, but openness to talk about sex is important in all families.
Discussion
- How comfortable do most people feel about talking about sex?
- Who do people usually talk to about sex? How do most children learn about sex? What dangers are there in this?
- At what age should children discuss sex? Who should introduce them to the subject?
- In many relationships sex is more about power than about equality. Women may have little or no control. What can women do in such an unequal relationship? What can men do to change attitudes?
- Sometimes relationships within marriage become very difficult. Where can people go to receive help, advice or counselling to improve their marriage relationship?
- Why do so many young people feel confused about sex and unsure of how to behave?
- How can we help to change this situation for our own young people?
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